She gets too hungry for dinner at 8...she likes the theatre and never comes late...she never bothers with people she hates....That's why the Lady is a tramp. Ok....back up the bus, because that aptly describes me. I was listening to this in my living room alone while cooking and said wait...what. What is the deal with these lyrics....Yes I am having fun but I will come back to these lyrics in a few minutes but first let me tell you a story. I posed a question to my good friend William.
I said help me understand men...yet again I am baffled by some mens antics...no pun intended as I laugh inwardly. He said sure shoot what is up now. I go and describe what only happened a few minutes prior to this.
As I said I was cooking dinner, listening to Sinatra and my phone buzzes, incoming text. I do not recognize the number but the texts reads, Hey Nancy hope you are keeping well during this crisis...J.
J....I do not know a J...so I answer, sorry who is this and same to you. He laughs and says, I guess you deleted me from your contacts. I ponder a moment as to who this person is and when I realize who it is now I am laughing. I said Sweetheart there are very few people that would make it into my contacts, like my daughter, close friends, perhaps a boss, or the man I may be dating, and since you are none of those why would have I put you in my contacts to begin with. For the record J is a guy I went on one date with nearly a year ago, he was one of the guys that signed up for the ballet challenge if any of you remember that, sad to hear the ballet too has been cancelled.
J was and is a player which is why I had zero desire for his oh so gracious offer to Hang Out, translation ladies....Means he would like to see me...sleep with me...but no Commitment or Relationship.
After that first date and a few weeks that we chatted...I said go find Betty to Hang Out with Veronica has far too much self esteem to waste her time with men wasting her time.
So after I told J that No you never made it to contacts he says I think you still like me. Now I am laughing out loud, I said J, you are not a bad person, not at all, I just have zero interest in you as a suitor, I am sure your time would be better spent texting some other women, there may be a few out there waiting with Baited Breathe....I am just not one of them. I have not even given you any thought since I last saw you.
It was then he said I know you are not into casual relationships and giving the current situation it is moot anyway since dating is out and single people are having to remain single. I said Covid has nothing to do with me not lowering my standards to date a man who is not worthy of dating me...Good Luck. He ended it by saying if you ever want to chat shoot me a text. I was thinking about that and all I could think of, my only interest in you J is if you can help me find a job (he is a recruiter) but we are not friends...friends are those you chat everyday not with a man who shoots me a text after a year. So what do I want to say to J...if you need a friend to chat, sure I can be your friend...but do not do it under the guise of testing the waters to see if I would be interested in you as a suitor knowing exactly I am a relationship person only.
After telling William this... He laughs and says....yup testing the waters and he is horny and lonely and probably sent that text out to 10 other women. I am under no illusion that I think I am special in anyway to J or any of his other women he probably did text as well. I am just not going to play.
So back to the lyrics, I do love Sinatra but those lyrics are a little wacked. If a woman stands up for herself she is called a Bitch or a Tramp or some men call them a tease because they wont sleep with them. Crazy world. Here is another quick story that confirms this as well.
I was talking to my friend K and she was telling me she has been actually talking to men on the phone during this covid. Cannot meet up to date so instead she has been texting and talking to one guy for a few weeks. He then sends her a message yesterday to say hey....when can we meet. She is like Duh how about in June.
He gets upset and says what...we are not going to meet up this weekend. That would be No she says, I have not even seen my friends during this time...I most certainly am not going to meet up with a stranger despite us chatting.
He gets even more upset and says what...I guess I wasted 3 weeks talking to you. Yup ladies and gentlemen that is what he said...apparently people are still hooking up like what is wrong with people.
The last story is about me dating. We met for the first time after Valentines Day and did go out a few times and now we are doing more talking or dating 1880 style.
Yesterday we went for a walk in the park, he brought me flowers, (so nice). We kept our distance while we walked, and last night we had a date night at each of our places. At 7pm we both put Casablanca on at the same time and watched it together, had wine and talked on the phone for 2 hours while Casablanca played in the background. When this is all over, I think we will have a far better relationship because we have learned a lot about each other this way.
It was a lot of fun, we laughed, we talked about Paris (love Paris) and the next thing we are going to do is choose a book and we read a chapter at the same time and then discuss it. I had so much fun doing that movie night...I am going to suggest we do that again.
The reason I am telling you this is I am hoping it will brighten you day. I do hope we get back to normal soon, and for the ladies....there are some nice guys out there...I doubt I found the last one, do not settle for a J ( no offence J) you are not a bad guy just not a serious guy. Lastly stay safe, do not meet up with strangers. Have a great day everyone
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