I was out last night having some wine with my good friend Sam (not his real name) and he said hey I have to thank you for something. I said oh yeah what may that be. It was something you said the last time we had drinks. I laughed and said shit did I lose a bet...do I owe you money...No, you said to me that I need to stop looking for an exit strategy as it pertains to relationships. Right that. He is right you know...Do as I say not as I do. That was what was rolling around in my Brain at that point. Sam or should I say I am right. So Sam took my advice...called the girl that he has been on again off again for awhile. The reason for the break ups...Sam had trouble admitting that being in a relationship is hard work and if you are always looking for an exit strategy then why be in it in the first place. I will come back to Sam in a minute.
Love...hmmm...four letters yet powerful and scary and hopeful. Its one you use (at least in my case) sparingly and sometimes not at all. Here is something that none of you know. I am great at giving advice...just ask my friends...but when it comes to taking my own advice...it can be tricky. I..yes even I was in Love...once. It happened once and although it was brief it is just like what people say..It is powerful, overwhelming and hurts like a stabbing pain in your chest when it ends. So yes I have had my heart broken, however I wish it had happened when I was younger...and a few times so I would have known what I was dealing with..lol. It happened right after the break up of my marriage so I was in no position to be in a relationship and neither was he, but the powerful electricity that was between us was nothing I had ever experienced before or since then...alas perhaps one day. I spoke of this before that an attraction between 2 people is great but for a relationship to last there needs to be more, Sam recognized that and he came clean with his feelings and was finally able to let go of the exit strategy and jump in. Lucky for Sam she still shared his feelings and I am optimistic for them.
I blame the exit strategy not solely on men or women but part of the blame needs to go to ding ding ding....yes Online Dating Websites. Yes here comes the rant about online Dating. If you truly believe that BS they feed you that they want you to find true love and ride off into the sunset together then you would be wrong. It would be like telling you to come to Vegas you will hit the jackpot at the Black Jack Table....here's a secret... the house always wins. Online dating is like a blackjack game. the house always wins...they give the illusion that they want you to find your true love but its all smoke and mirrors. I am not saying don't give it a try, just be realistic in your expectations. If everyone online were honest about who they are and their age (Alan you are 57 not 52...jeez stop lying already). I think if a person starts lying before you even meet...not a good sign.
I am optimistic and happy for Sam and I am really glad he is going to be more open and not be looking for an exit strategy, for me well we shall see. I found love once it could happen again... couldn't it, yes I am optimistic as well that maybe one day I will find it and if I don't well the lottery is 50 million that could at least rent me love. Hahaha...I am only kidding. Wishing everyone a Fantastic Holiday or Christmas filled with Love Health and happiness. Love is Hard to find so don't be so easy to dispose of like you will with the trash bags after the presents are opened. Thanks all and again Merry Christmas.
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