While polishing my La Barge coffee table this past weekend and watching 300, now that is a movie all men should watch for inspiration on what women like (lol). The matrix came on just after 300 and I started to watch it. For the record and for those who have never seen it, men love it….all men, women…meh, not all that jazzed about it.
While watching it, it dawned on me why men like it, it was like a light bulb went on over my head, like in a cartoon. In my humble opinion and since I am the writer here, I think it is because men want to live in the matrix. You may be asking what is she talking about, why do men want to live in the Matrix, well let me explain.
I have been attempting to date (albeit poorly) over the last few years and it has occurred to me that men prefer a fantasy to the real thing and I mean that in many aspects. Women should never pretend to be something they are not to capture the attention of any man and yes dear reader I mean that. Now I did not say do not take care in your appearance but do not change what makes you….well you. I am aware that men love long hair on a woman for instance, but that is not the reason my hair is long, for me its easier to put it in a ponytail while running, however I am sporting a shorter do these days….see photo. A man recently said to me do not cut your hair because you wont get a date, I laughed and cut it anyway. I will pose the question to women do you actually think that, would not even occur to me. I also want to pose to women why would you change anything about yourself for any man. I would never consider lipo or botox or a facelift or a boob job for any man and those who do, well I think you are lacking in confidence and your money would be better spent on improving that. I do however feel eating healthy and working out is good for you, but I do not do it to attract a man, I do it because it makes me feel great. Back to the matrix and why men love it.
Men love this movie for many reasons (yes I spoke to many for this article)… some said its just so cool, or they like all that leather, but when I said I think you like it for a few reasons and it has to do with responsibilities or lack there of as it relates to the real world and relationships.
The matrix is predictable, you get up, live your life…etc. When one is unplugged one sees the world for what it is and its not all that pretty. Gone are the great steaks and hot women and you have to deal with real life. I am likening this to those guys (you know who you are) who would at the age past 30 still living in their parents basement playing video games instead of growing up. Seems 30 is the new 12 and for that I am serious as it relates to men.
You all know I have done online dating in the past and it seems that 50 is like the new 20, and I do not mean that in a flattering kind of way. Men never grow up (yes generalizing here folks) but I have been on enough dates to know that these 50 yr old men are nothing but 20 yr old frat boys reliving their youth….just wish some of them were in the same shape they were in at 20…hahaha. They want to live in the matrix with no responsibility to life or relationships. To be honest I am not sure why we give these men the time of day and in most cases we do not.
I guess if you do not know what you seek at past the age of 50….yikes…I am out, not interested in hearing some guy say….ummm…not sure….looking to date but do not know what I am looking for….Wrong….you know exactly what you are looking for and its not a Relationship so be honest. I have heard guys say this about women as well so I know it sometimes happens the other way too.
The other reason men like the matrix is Trinity….but not the trinity that is outside the matrix…the one inside with the kick ass attitude and leather outfits worn by Carrie Ann Moss (who btw I share a Bday with, presents are welcome). However outside the matrix men would not give her a second look, and it has nothing to do with her looks. Life would be too real outside the matrix and men want the fantasy not the reality.
My take on the Matrix is this….meh…it would not have been all that successful if Trinity was not in it and for me I prefer reality to fantasy, could be why I never bought into Game of Thrones either.
Lastly, for all you men out there, step out of the fantasies, treat women with respect, you may be surprised that, that is what women want.