If you are of a certain age you will remember Pepè Le Pew...He was the Parisian French Skunk that had a certain smell that made him not so attractive to the ladies or perhaps he was always pursuing the wrong kind of girl..cat...skunk...haha...when I was younger I always felt sorry for him but now I think maybe his smell was the smell of desperation and all the women knew it. Whatever it was...too assertive or too desperate..my recent dating mishap...I can relate to the cat in the Pepè story.
They say you can tell much about a person when you have your first fight or when you break up with someone. Well I most certainly found out more than I guess I ever wanted to know. If you have not read some of the other stories I encourage you to do so. I was dating a French Chef...only for a few weeks..we went out to dinner a couple times...he cooked me dinner once, we went on a couple walks and played badminton once. It did indeed have potential... that was up until a few days ago. What happened you ask well dear readers I do hope you will weigh in because I did poll my friends and they said they would have done the same...both men and women so do let me know.
So the French Chef that I had been seeing told me early after we met that he would be going on vacation mid September and that he was going with a friend. He would be gone for many weeks and I said I totally understand, we had only just met and I would not expect him to change his plans just because he had met me. I thought no more of it until we were having a phone conversation just a couple days before he was to leave on vacation when he said this friend of his was actually an ex girlfriend whom he dated a little while back. Again may be I am old fashion but I do not take issue with being friends with an ex as I am friends with mine BUT I would not go on vacation with just my ex as in he would be sharing a room with his ex while on vacation for the next 5 weeks.
I said well hmmm I do not think I am as progressive as the French and going on vacation for many weeks with an ex...spending literally 24 hours together every day. I actually said I wish you well but this is where I exit stage Right because I feel you have unfinished business here with this ex. Oh no he said she and I are just friends darling in fact she is in a new relationship with a very nice woman.
Wait what....if you are confused well so was I....his ex girlfriend is now in a relationship with a woman...I was now checking for hidden cameras as this reminded me of a SATC episode where Samantha announces she is now in a relationship with a woman and all Charlotte can say she is doing it for attention.
So I say to the Chef....Ok let me get this straight...(unlike his last girlfriend)...sorry could not resist putting that in there. His ex girlfriend is now in a relationship with another woman and she does not mind that her girlfriend is off on vacation with a man who is now her ex. He said exactly, oh and she is not gay darling she is actually bisexual. It was at this point when I said I am sorry but I am out....this is too much for me. He said what is the big deal. Well what I want you all to know....I do not care one way or the other if you are gay...straight ..or bisexual...that to me is not the issue here.
What I take issue with is asking me to be accepting that you are going on vacation with an ex..someone whom you shared many intimate moments with...again I guess I am not as progressive as the French.
They say the only real thing you can control are your emotions which in this case I kept fully intact and said well have a great vacation and life...but I am out...I am not accepting of this and I have a right to not be accepting of this.
This is where Napoleon (to use another French term and well he was only 5 ft 6) reared his ugly head. The chef actually got very angry with me because I was not accepting of this.
Like I said you really get to know a person when you break up with them..he insulted my writing...hey I know I am no Shakespeare or Wilde...but I think I do entertain (please weigh in if you agree). He called me selfish and over dramatic...I said hmmm.....I do not think not accepting of this behaviour is either of those things but I wish you well. I thought that would be the end of it....oh no....he continued to text me until I had to block him even after I did not return any of his texts.
My friends said Nancy you did the right thing and it is good you found out about his temper early on. For me Cèst La Vie....I hope he enjoys his vacation and perhaps gains some perspective so that he goes into his next relationship without the stink of desperation made famous by the Parisian Skunk Pepè.
Until the next adventure...I wish all welll and let me hear your thoughts.
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