I was just about to turn on the tennis yesterday when I get a text from my gf K, hey are you home wanted to drop by to borrow a dress. Absolutely, drop by. K is having an upcoming photo shoot and of course I also wanted to chat with her about her second date so she dropped by... since she does not live far from me she was at my place within 20 mins.
Some of you may recall that this was a second date that he asked her on and booked a nice restaurant downtown for 730 on a Saturday Night. I will come back to K's date in a moment.
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I want to remind women and men out there that if a mans asks you out...makes reservations at a restaurant on a Saturday night for 730...there really should not be any confusion at all that this indeed is a date...a dinner date with wine and conversation at least that is what K thought.
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Why would there be any confusion in the first place...well let me explain...in this day and age of online men and I will also say some women think that keeping options open is the best strategy...wrong...it is the worst strategy...because you may think that playing the field by having many options is good...I say its bad form and you will get a reputation because people as in women do have friends and they do talk.
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My date with the Parisian Chef....the third date was wonderful...and there was and is no confusion of his intent. Our third date we met for drinks downtown went to Cirque de Soliel and then we had dessert at a downtown restaurant with drinks...it was a really great evening. He also (eventhough I told him not to as we just met) bought me perfume for my birthday. Ladies let me tell you...there are nice guys out there who are willing to just date just you...but first listen to a few things I am about to tell you.
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When I told K about my new strategy that I think all women should implement before accepting any date from any man she now gets it. My strategy in case you did not read the other articles were this...the man can ask me 3 questions about me and after I have answered the questions he must either ask me out on a real date or he can delete me...I am not here to chit chat...via text or otherwise...if you cannot man up and ask me out on a real date...Bye...not interested in anymore coffee dates...That is how I met the Parisian Chef...and yes we are now dating..and another thing we actually talk on the phone with very little texting.
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So what do I want to say to both men and women...if you really are looking for one person then concentrate on one person...stop playing around...jeez I am 51 and have zero patience for any man who thinks I am some conciliation prize...yeah no I am better than that and ladies if you value yourself in anyway you will demand to be treated like a lady.
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Back to K...so I asked what happened on the second date...Now remember...he asked her out...booked reservations at a restaurant....Saturday Night 730....she got dressed up...Men you need to appreciate what a woman does to get ready for a date that they are excited about...also she drove downtown and its not always easy to find parking in the Core.
So was K excited for her date...yes she was...was she also disappointed by the outcome...Yup..
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What happened...well from what K told me...they had one drink each...no dinner...he clearly did not see this as a real date and in my personal opinion had maybe a date after this. I personally would have left if dinner was not on the menu after the first drink...No offence but you do not ask a girl out for Sat night...2 hours later and taking up a table at a busy downtown restaurant. To me...just not cool...not in the least. K never heard from him again...and to that I say good riddance....and ladies do not make the mistake of texting this guy...waste of time.
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Has this ever happened to me....Cannot say it has as I would have just ordered food...sorry a girl has got to eat...LOL.
If he didn't want to pay who cares I would pay for my own dinner...and still bid good riddance to bad rubbish.
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From the mans opinion...I polled a few of my guy friends on this....they all said the same thing. If he was not into her he should have cancelled not have one drink and no dinner....or most said he should have bought her dinner...after all he asked her out....What I personally think what happened.
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I think this happened...he met K...had a great first date...then had another first date with another girl...liked the other girl better but had already made plans with K and felt he should keep them but did not want to have dinner with her and was doing it out of obligation.
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I think he should have just cancelled with K as he truly was not into her after he met girl number 2. This is why I don't multiple date....it is not fair to the other person...and who knows the other girl...maybe she too is keeping her options open and he will get the same treatment.
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Ladies what I will say to you is this....try my strategy...3 questions...then a real date....if he does not delete him...do not waste your time with any man that is wasting your time....You are worth far more than a drink.....
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