If you have read any of my previous articles past and present then most of you know I speak my mind so I feel the need to speak out and say what I know most people are thinking. The other article I wrote today on the Po po pilot, yeah I should have ended the date within the first 30 mins but I did not because I am not a shallow person but I am an honest one and just today someone dared to call me out on it so I offered him the challenge. I never met this person but I saw his profile on Meet Up...which we belonged to a couple mutual groups so I thought I would message him regarding our mutual interests.
He messaged me back, we chatted a little bit about football...bloody packers...lol. It was then he asked permission to text me, which I thought was nice so I gave him my number,,,,with one caveat. Remember when I said one should not compromise.
If you were paying attention in the po po pilot article I mentioned that TG is now dating a woman who he has more in common with than I. At least he hopes he has more in common with. Gasp what could I possibly mean by (he hopes)….well let me inform all you men oh my....that there are many women out there who will lie to you...say it isn't so Nancy...
I am probably one of very few women who will not pretend or lie to get what I want. Men come off as saying they want the pretty girl, check, the smart girl. check...the one that is in shape...check...the one who dresses well and has a great sense of humour...check and check...in case you do not think I have a great sense of humour...read my article...lol
So why oh why do men not want to date me...awww....well there is a very good reason , first off I am picky and second I am confident in who I am and I will not pretend to be something that I am not.
Am I saying that the woman TG is now with lies about her interests....well....Hell Yeah.....that is exactly what I am saying. For centuries women have pretended to be what they are not to attract a man and today is no different....do you want to know why divorce is so high....mostly because men always say, she is not the same person I married....or we were so different. Let me let you in on a little secret, she was always that way....she presented an image to you and you were blinded by it....once she had you then she revealed her true authentic self....its really not that complicated.
TG and this woman who have only been together for 18 mos...and just dating....oh and they have never lived together are now building a house together...once built that will be the first time they will be living together. What do I say to that.....are you crazy.
I think one should be dating far longer than that....what happens if you break up before the house is even built then what....would it not make far more sense to maybe rent a place first before making such a commitment. This is why in my opinion this relationship will not last. I am aware being in a relationship means compromising but I know who will be doing the compromising in this household....lol.
Back to the guy I messaged with...lets call him Alan. So I sent Alan my digits and the caveat was as I am very upfront and honest....I said sure give me a shout...and ask me out...as long as you do not expect me to be interested in back country camping...hunting...fishing or quading. Those are things that you can do with your guy friends but I am not all that keen on them. I followed it up to say I would compromise for the right guy to do those things sparingly but not all my free time.
He after me saying that had not interest in meeting me. This is where I say men cannot handle the truth. I could have lied to him like pretty much any woman will because they will do a bait and switch and then the break up...blah blah blah....or men wake up one day and say I never saw the divorce coming. However I feel it is best to be honest and say I would do them for the right person but they are not my interests. Alan said there are plenty of women that like to camp...and quad and fish....I laughed and said no...no there are not you have been and will continue to be lied to by women who say they are interested in these things....at least not the type of women you say you are interested in.
Men say they do want the attractive well dressed, intelligent woman..one who is confident and honest...but that is me and NO....you want the drama queens....so until I find a man who would rather have that continue to wonder why that woman you thought she was turns into something else....she is just showing you her authentic self...with me...hey I never show anything but that.
To TG.....I hope it works out for him....and if it doesn't he will probably just stay in the relationship because its his second time around and men can be stubborn if they want something to work out.
I am available for comments or if there is a man who is interested in an authentic woman.
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