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Here are some Types of Men I would encourage Women to Avoid if Seeking a Relationship

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There are things you learn when you jump back into dating after a marriage ends one is knowing what you want.  It takes time...I too thought I was ready for a relationship....wrong...it took me years to realize who I am and what I was seeking...Its now been nearly 5 years...and I only realized it in Year 3 what I knew I was seeking.  I know everyone is different but it does take time.

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I am here to help you navigate on the types of men to avoid once you realize that you are ready for a relationship again...and believe me I made mistakes...so will you...and that is ok...I am here to just help you avoid wasting too much time.  We talked about Jane in the last article and what she did wrong I will be following up with that soon...but today I am here to help with The Men  who will waste your time.  Guys I will be coming out with a similar article on the types of women to avoid as well....equal billing.

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The first Type...He will be what I call the honest guy....wait...what...you want me to avoid what you call an honest guy....YES....what I mean by an honest guy..He will tell you right upfront he is not looking for a Relationship... or the other line is I am looking for something fun..or Casual..Run...do not pass go...just Run... The thing about this guy is he will say in the same breath...we can date but I am not seeking a relationship right now.   Translation...he just got out of a relationship and is not ready...but sex...oh yeah that is what he is seeking.  My advice if a man is this honest...and I do appreciate that he is being honest...just do not fall for this guy.  He will be attractive...charming..funny...and you are thinking...maybe he just hasn`t found the right girl yet...NO...he has found many girls...and you will just be on that list.  Remember my advice to my GF about the second date...again Run do not walk.

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The Second Guy is what I call the Narcissist/Player...sometimes the first guy will embody both Type 1 and this Type.  This is a dangerous combination because he will also be quite attractive and knows really well how to get women into bed...so how do you spot him...I trust my gut.  If it seems too good to be true...alas it is.  Let me tell you a story of the Narcissist that got me off online dating for good.

Met him in the coffee shop (groan) He was really attractive (thats usually but not always the first sign)  He actually looked like Draper...and charming....smart...all that.  I remember thinking he is such a Player in my head when I met him...I actually asked him if he was.  He laughed...he really did (to me....I don't know if any of you remember Ted Bundy (the worlds largest Narcisssist)  but he used to laugh a lot when confronted...Now I do not think this Draper looking guy would be out to kill women....but in my experience when someone laughs to avoid a question...he is laughing it off because even he knows its true.  So we went on a second date...yup...charming...sexy as hell...and the thing was..he was also smart...in shape...blah...blah...blah...we did indeed Kiss and wow a really great Kisser as well...Before the third date came around...Many of you are getting to know me...and for me no topic is off topic.   I asked his position on STI Testing...I won't belabour this but guess what...he had never had one...Yeah no...now..I thought he would say ok...I probably should...I mean who at the age of 50 and single and having sex does not get tested....ummm stupid people.  This is the type of man you should definitely  Run away and Ladies and Gentlemen if someone refuses and STI Test....Run...Needless to say I ran.

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The Third Type of Man...he is easy to spot...he is the Angry man...he is angry about his ex and projects that anger on every woman...he has not done the work and well.. do not be an ear for him..you are not his therapist...This man too is not ready for a relationship...I have gone out on one date with a few of these men and I say...call me in a few years when you have gotten past the anger and can be a bit more objective.

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The last guy....This is the guy who is just fresh out of a relationship...he thinks he is ready...He will say all the right things...he is sweet...charming...funny...all that...but let me say this....if it has been under a year since separating from his wife...or long term....walk away.  I actually mean that...I know it is really hard because this is the guy you are looking for (in about another year or two)....I recently met someone like this a few months back.  He was all that and a bag of chips...but timing is a bitch....if he is available in a year or so and I am still single...then he can call me...but until then...I have no interest in being his transitional girl.

So what is left do you ask...Nancy you just told us so many men to avoid.  Awww I am telling you...if you want a relationship that has a chance at surviving then yes ....yes avoid these types of men...Also you need to look at yourself and ask yourself do  you fall into any of these groups.  Have you done the work, are you complaining about an ex.. are you just fresh out as well.  For me I know I am ready...Its been more than 5 years...I am great friends with my ex...I have no anger towards him and I am not interested in Hooking Up...I also am happy in my own life with who I am.  I may be alone but I am not Lonely.

I hope this will help you Navigate the Dating world whether it be online or off line...Ladies...there are Great guys out there...but let them also do the asking.

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