I was having sushi and Prosecco with my gf K on NYE and I posed the question to her on why there are no gentlemen left in this world, she started laughing so hard that wine nearly came out her nose. I too started laughing, but in actuality I am serious. Why are there no gentlemen left? Well let me give you some examples of not so gentlemanly behavior and you can decide for yourself dear reader if I am out to lunch or maybe I am correct in my summation.
I did recently tell you about the gentlemen who indeed helped me with putting air in my tire as I had no idea how to use the contraption and all without any lude remarks. Now let me give you some examples of not so gentlemanly behavior.
I had just posted the beautiful Labarge coffee table to Linkedin when he made a comment on it and I said thank you if interested give me a shout. This person oh lets call him T, we had worked together many years ago, (for the record I was not a fan, he was and still is a sexist pig), may explain the fact that he is getting divorced again for the third time. Anyways he calls me, keep in mind I had not heard from this person and well we were never friends anyway but I thought he may be interested in buying the table. Nope he was interested in the hopes I may entertain the idea of going out with him. I was polite as I could manage but when he turned the conversation sexual, I ended said conversation. You may be thinking wtf, yes dear readers this is men, at least men today. They think that after what amounted to as a few minutes of polite conversation they are given permission to ask a woman how large is their……it rhymes with Delores (if any of you remember the Seinfeld episode.) I am here to tell you that this actually did happen and this was my response. I am in no way interested in an out of shape, over weight (I would say closing in on 300 pounds) and thrice divorced man. You should examine why you are now divorced 3 times. I bid you adieu and do not contact me again.
Another incident that recently occurred came from Meet Up…I actually forgot I had an account there as I had not been on it in over a year. This man (Chris) messaged me to say Merry Christmas, I said to you as well but do I know you as I do not think I do. He said No you do not but I would like to get to know you. At first I thought well good for him to have the courage to ask a woman out, however I said sorry, not meeting anyone new right now given the current situation. He counters with oh ok, why don’t I give you a shout in a few months that is if I am still single. This I laughed about, like I should jump right to it or oh my I may miss my chance. I said well I guess I will have to take that risk and anyone meeting new people especially for dating right now, not a good idea but good luck. Instead of him saying good bye he says well I only meet women in parks socially distanced of course. Now I really had to laugh, I said do you have any idea what you are saying. What women in her right mind would meet a strange man in a park that she does not know. When I do date it is in a public space and since that is not an option it is foolish of you to suggest something like that now I bid you adieu. I guess men are trolling for women in any fashion they can muster right now.
I told K about these 2 incidents and she told me some of her own and again I am appalled at the behaviors of men. I am posing the question to all me, do you really think this kind of behavior is going to get you a date. Call me old fashioned, I do not care but I would rather be alone and masturbate then to be anything but disgusted by either of these mens attempts.
I would like to know when did it become common place to speak to women in such fashion. When did it become ok to basically ask for sex from a woman you have never met. Ladies I encourage you to not allow this and the only way you can is to shut this kind of behavior down immediately. It irks me to no end that this behavior stems from online dating. Online dating has ruined the prospect of any real relationships to cultivate and ladies if you want to stop the behavior, then you need to stop online dating because that is where it all began.
If indeed there are gentlemen out there and appalled as well by some mens behavior, then you too need to speak up because to allow it to occur in front of you, you add to the problem.
For me as stated and for many other women who do feel as I, we would indeed rather be alone then to be with these types of men who are exactly that disgusting.
Weigh in dear readers and if you have your own story please share it, would love to hear from you